How do I reconfirm an appointment so it holds?
Call the day before, state the time as a fact with a reason, check that every decision-maker will be there, and ask whether what you sent raised any question. If they want to cancel, ask what changed, answer it, and reset a day and time. Stop only if they ask not to be called.
Read the transcript
- Oh, hi. About tomorrow... actually, can we push it?
- My husband can't make it, and this week got really busy.
- Oh, sure, no problem at all!
- Just give me a call whenever things calm down, and we'll find another time.
- After every practice call, your card arrives: what worked, and the one thing to fix.
- The call trains four moves. State the time as a fact, with the reason for your call.
- Check that everyone who decides will be in the room.
- Ask whether what you sent raised any question.
- If they want to cancel, ask what changed, answer it, and set a new day and time.
- The yes was real. Most missed appointments are not rejections.
- They are drift. Asking whether you are still on hands the seller an exit,
- and makes it the polite thing to take.
- A short call the day before is what stops the drift.
- Practice it until it sounds like you.
- Each call runs as long as the conversation needs,
- and you can make as many as you want.
- Practice free at 10before10.com/try.
Drafted with AI by the 10before10 team, reviewed and approved by Grant Freer and Gia Freer, licensed Florida real estate brokers. Updated October 25, 2026.
Why this comes up
The seller said yes two days ago and meant it. Since then they talked to a spouse, took a call from another agent, read something online, or got busy. The yes was real.
The calendar is not, until someone makes it real. Most missed appointments are not rejections. They are drift, and a short call the day before is what stops it.
The reconfirmation call is not a second sales call. It answers three questions: is the time still on, will everyone who decides be in the room, and did what you sent arrive and make sense. That is all.
Under two minutes.
The trap is the wording. "Are we still on for tomorrow?" sounds polite and it is a mistake. It is a question, and a question invites an answer, and the easy answer to that one is "actually, can we push it."
The seller hears you asking whether they would like to back out. A reconfirmation is a statement of what happens next, with the reason you are calling, on a falling tone. It confirms.
It does not ask permission.
What to say
These are examples in plain words, not lines to memorize. Say them the way you actually talk.
"Hi, it's your name with your brokerage. Quick call, three things. We're on for tomorrow at six.
Will co-owner be able to join us? And did the package land, and was there anything in it that didn't make sense, so I can bring the answer with me?"
The first sentence after the greeting is a statement, pitch falling at the end. The other two are real questions with the reason attached: you want the other decision-maker there so nobody relays it, and you want their questions now so you arrive with answers. Every part of it is about their meeting, not your confirmation.
"I'm calling today because I'd rather move it than go through it twice or have you pass it along. If co-owner can't make six, would Thursday at six or Saturday morning work for both of you?"
The reason comes first, then two real options. You are not proceeding one-sided by default, and you are not asking why they cannot come. Moving a meeting is easy.
Running a meeting where the person who decides is not in the room is not.
"That's fine, and thank you for telling me rather than letting me drive over. Keep what I sent; the sales in it are yours regardless. If anything changes, you know where I am."
This is the line for a cancellation, and it is the one that matters most. It thanks them, asks what changed, answers it, and resets the meeting with two day-and-time choices. If it is a real condition, not selling now, a death, an illness, it names it and sets the follow-up call to a day and a time.
Read it the next morning as the seller and it holds up, which is exactly why they remember you when the timing changes.
What not to do
Do not ask whether you are still on. You have handed the seller an exit and made it the polite thing to take. State the time, give the reason for the call, and move to the next check.
Do not let a cancellation end the call. Thank them, ask what changed, answer it, and reset the meeting with two day-and-time choices. If it is a real condition, name it, set the follow-up call to a day and a time, and log it.
The ones who fold under pressure cancel again, later and quieter.
Do not run the meeting one-sided because it is easier than moving it. If a decision-maker cannot come, offer two other times first. If the seller insists on keeping the time, bring a second copy and plan a short follow-up with the other person, so nobody decides on a summary.
How to practice it
Have a colleague play a seller and run five versions of the same call: everything fine, package never arrived, spouse cannot come, wants to cancel, chose another agent. Time each one; every version should end inside two minutes. Record yourself and listen to the sentence where you state the time.
If your voice rises at the end, you asked, and the seller heard an invitation. Say it again on a falling tone until it sounds like a fact. That falling tone is the habit, and 10before10™'s scorecard listens for it on this drill.
Honest answers
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Make one practice call. See your card.
A prospect who sounds real raises this exact moment. Ten minutes, in the browser, no account. The scorecard tells you the one thing to fix.